Weems Hazen Law

Mar 2023

Dathan rewarded and incentivized poor cocoparenting behaviors and violations by negating his own previously issued rules and/or canceling accommodations written into our court order. Made many promises about actions or timelines which, in the fullness of time, were either disingenuous or unfulfilled. Allowed our case to languish for four years. I often felt gaslighted by his choice of interpretation of events which appeared to be selectively motivated to excuse canceled sharing, alienating tactics, unilateral parental decisions, etc. He articulated numerous troubling statements regarding his sense of the father's role, importance, and timesharing. (IE. I should be grateful I had "so much more time[sharing] than so many other fathers", "the best thing you can do is walk away", and angrily telling me, "You can have one or four days [every two weeks], I don't care!") Too often he derided my intellectual ability to understand his decisions rather than provide meaningful insights. I found his leadership on behalf of our children to be ineffectual and untimely for recurring concerns. Ultimately, he discharged himself from our case and left my future parental involvement on behalf of my children in a precarious and disempowered state. If you are a father, I would not recommend his services as a Guardian Ad Litem. He was distinctly unwilling to value the concept of equal fatherly involvement on par with the mother's role in timesharing and decisions for our children, to wield his authority in an even handed fashion, or buck a system that awards mothers primary custodial roles 85% of the time.