Always Home Services

Jun 2021

I was not able to live with my mom. It is astounding to acknowledge that a sociopath essentially separated us. That's what crazy people do best- they move the person under their control as far away from a perceived threat as they can. I went along for the ride. I couldn't afford the ride back. As I have said before, my dad let his girlfriend pick the location of our doomed business. Our top opportunity quickly withered in the presence of Pine Barrens trash. And my mom withered, too. Being divorced and alone takes a toll on a soul. However, my mom had a home health aide who helped her for nine years. That is exceptional. Her aide did not steal, which is a common complaint among seniors. My mom's aide did light housekeeping, ran errands, and gave my mom emotional support. I did take off one half of a star for some communication difficulties between the aide and others. Sometimes it is hard to get past language barriers. It is an excellent chance for a person to learn a new language, but critical info can also be lost if there is a misunderstanding. The other half is because my mom often told her aide that she was not needed, and to just not come. This leeway could get out of control, as the aide began to feel comfortable in asking if she could have certain days off. I read a heartbreaking text in which my mom asked for help. There was no response. I presume that her aide came as quickly as she could. I still wonder about outcomes based on criteria of presence or non-presence. My mom's aide adored my mom. My mom was not just a number. She was a person, as her aide is as well. We have to remember that.